Tuesday, 3 May 2011

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4 Reasons Why Revenge Is Not the Best Way to Deal With Your Cheating Partner


Revenge is never the most ideal way to get back at your cheating partner. In some countries, spouses are even pardoned for shooting a cheating partner if he sees them in bed together.It is important that you keep your emotions and wits in check once you found out that you've been a victim of an untrustworthy relationship. There are better ways to move on, instead of just focusing on your anger and frustration. Here are some great tips.

1. Revenge Does Not End the Cycle
Revenge will not stop a cheat partner from repeating the deed. If you want to save your marriage, a cheating partner will find your revenge as a justificatory act that it was only right that he cheated on you. Provide the impression that you have been a good and faithful spouse and let him realize that it was his mistake that caused all the problems and confusion.Taking revenge on your partner will only make things worse. He might even try to get back at you again by cheating more. Revenge does not exact justice to both parties and the habit will not end once your cheating partner feels that you have already equaled what he has done.



2. Revenge Puts You Down
Most partners admit that they do not feel good after taking revenge on their partner. Others even feel the need to find more ways to hurt the cheating party. Revenge does not make you feel good in any way, since cheating is usually not mended independently.Even after taking revenge, a lot of spouses find themselves crying and feeling desperate day by day. The hurt feelings are not erased by the act of vengeance and you might even feel more depressed by the fact that you reacted as immaturely by getting back. It is the cheating partner that should suffer emotionally, not you.

3. Revenge Invites Other People In
Depending on the type of revenge that you did, other people might get involved, especially the cheating partner's family and friends. Regardless of the cheating, we can say that the cheating partner is never really wrong in the eyes of his loved ones. Taking revenge will only ignite anger and resentment from other people. Instead, try to aim getting their sympathy for the wrong that your partner did. Let them hurl him the details so he will be the one feeling bad and remorseful. You can also get more support and allies by not taking revenge, since everybody knows that you did nothing wrong. 


4. Revenge Ends the Relationship
Most spouses, after taking revenge, feel that there's no more chance to save the marriage. Both partners will start to resent each other since they both have hurt feelings and do not want to be in a position to apologize.
Revenge will mean that you wish to end the relationship and there's no peaceful solution that can be accomplished through communication and understanding. If you still want to save your marriage, find more peaceful ways to settle the problem.

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